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THE MEN'S MEETING
Wednesday, Dec 13, 2017 12:00pm

The MEN'S MEETING @ the Healing Heart Counseling Center.

This meeting will provide you with over a month of counseling in one day, at around half the cost of individual/marital sessions. Please call the office to register @ 318-222-6800.

WHERE: The meeting will be held in Marty Miller's office where I normally meet with clients.

I think The Saturday Men’s Meeting will give you tools, skills and information that you need to help you to live in freedom daily. I believe this will give you a huge boost in your progress towards overcoming.

CLICK HERE for more information about the Men's Meeting.

This will be a multi-media teaching/skills meeting, with video clips, slides & hand outs.

You do not have to talk if you do don’t want to. There will be time for questions & answers.

Please let me know if you can come at your earliest convenience for planning purposes. Thanks and I look forward to seeing you there!

Ever ask yourself: “Why do I do the things I do?” God made boys, and men, different. What often starts out as curiosity can quickly become self destructive.

Without even realizing it, we can quickly find ourselves in deep trouble. But we can find a better path. That’s what the Men’s Meeting is about.

Impulsive and compulsive sexual behavior can include a number of problem areas: pornography, affairs etc.

SIXTY FOUR PERCENT (64%) of Christian men admit to being affected in some way by these problems behaviors. Isolation is what feeds the problem.

“Fellowship is equal to

freedom from lust.”

I will be sharing from a culmination of 20 years of experience treating and researching sexually compulsive behaviors, and seeing how God heals this unique problem.

Remember that you are not alone in your struggles. No matter what your circumstances, God has something for you in this meeting. He binds up the broken hearted, He sustains those who are weary, and he provides victory for those who have failed but who trust in and follow Him. Has His right arm been shortened? No! He will uphold you with His victorious right arm!

Please be in prayer about what God wants to do in your life and the lives of others in this meeting. Nothing is impossible with God, and nothing is too hard for Him. He has plans for you that you wouldn’t believe if you saw them. He wants to turn your pain and struggles into blessings and strength, in a way that only He can.

What does He ask of you in return? Only to trust Him, to acknowledge that your best thinking is what got you where you are today, and to surrender control of your life to Him. He is an amazing God, abounding in mercy and abundant in grace. He desires to be close to you and to pour out His blessings on you, and to free you of the chains that are binding you.

If you’ve been before and would like to come for a refresher you are welcome to come at a nominal fee.

Men who have recently attended had this to say:

v “The meeting was comfortable & beneficial.”

v “There were practical guides and tools.”

v “This is a major step toward healing”

v “I felt very comfortable and relaxed. The atmosphere was non-judgmental and affirming.”

v “This meeting is definitely a tool that helps with the healing process.”

To the question: ”What would you say to someone who knows they need this, but are reluctant to come?”

v “You don’t have to talk, you can just listen.”

v “Just come and listen. You don’t have to share if you are not comfortable. The cost of not coming, doing nothing or trying to do it on our own, will be more than the cost of coming.”

v “Other men have struggled and do not judge you for your struggle.”

v “It’s worth it. “

v “It’s the first step toward healing.”

Topics addressed in the meeting will include:

v Regaining the trust of others

v Relapse Prevention

v Strengthening the important relationships in your life

v Christ Centered Tools for recovery and how to use them

v Inoculating yourself against a world of sexual immorality

v How to Break the Cycle

v Unhealthy shame and guilt and how to deal with it

v Dealing with the Need for Approval

v Self-worth and dealing with loneliness and/or rejection

v The Seven Principles of Recovery

v Understanding the effects of sexually compulsive behavior on loved one’s

Again, please let me know if you can come at your earliest convenience for planning purposes & your early bird discount; 318-222-6800. Thanks and I look forward to seeing you there!

Marty

Couples Therapy / Marriage Counseling Helps
Wednesday, Dec 13, 2017 12:00pm

Need help with your relationship? Are conflicts resulting in destructive patterns, or withdrawal and the "silent treatment?"

All couples have fights, it's how you go about conflict that can be either destructive or constructive. Every serious relationship will enter the "power struggle" stage. The good news is there are healthy ways to get through it, and there are much better stages on the other side.

Conflict

Learn to "fight fair" and communicate in constructive ways. Counseling will give you the tools to clearly communicate, and to better understand what your partner is trying to say.

Learn to contain anger and channel it to productive use. Anger often results from "soul wounds" being trampled on.

Soul wounds are places in your heart that you've been hurt in the past. Counseling can help you to understand your soul wounds, and your partners, and what triggers them. Next you can learn to avoid these triggers and most importantly, learn to minister to each others soul wounds. This creates a soul healing kind of love.

To begin getting help, call for a confidential appointment at (318) 222-6800.

We also offer a Marriage Meeting, a Communication Meeting and several other meetings that are a very cost effective way to speed up the healing and growth process. Click on Saturday Meetings for more information.

ADHD
Wednesday, Dec 13, 2017 12:00pm

ADHD OFTEN CREATES PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE, GET TIPS & TOOLS

Albert Einstein had AHHD

SIGNS , SYMPTOMS, PROBLEMS & BLESSINGS WITH ADHD

Inattention

Do you find that you frequently "wander off" mentally?
Are you frequently distracted by irrelevant sights or sounds?
Do you find yourself missing details or making careless mistakes?
Do you have difficulty following instructions?
Do you find yourself losing or forgetting things often?

Hyperactivity

Can you sit still, or are you always moving your hands or feet while in your chair?
Do you tap your pencil or your feet?
Do you regularly play with your hair or clothing?
Do you consciously resist fidgeting or squirming?
Impulsivity
Do you often take action before you consider the possible consequences?
In conversation, do you interrupt others?
Do you blurt out inappropriate comments?
Do you experience difficulty waiting in line or for your turn?

It's also having a brain that sometimes blinks.

So you miss important instructions like exactly when that report is due
or when you're supposed to pick up the kids.

It's not noticing the social cues saying, "Stop talking now." or "That's not appropriate."

It's living to excess and making choices that you know you'll regret later.

It's not being able to see the right order of the day. And not being able to set priorities that will help you through it.

It's knowing that you're being judged for the messiest office or because you just can't do small talk.

Or worse, it's knowing that people just don't want to depend on you.

The ADHD Disciple and Apostle: Peter

How powerfully can God use someone who has ADHD?

Let’s look at the life of Peter, (originally named Simon), and the SYMPTOMS AND BLESSINGS OF ADHD.

Symptoms of ADHD:

1. Impulsivity, Rashness, Strong Emotions

2. Inattention

3. Easily Distracted

1. Peter’s Impulsivity: All four gospels picture Peter as impulsive, rash, and the first to act and speak his mind.

a. When Jesus began to speak of his sufferings, Peter rebuked him. But our Lord in return rebuked Peter, speaking to him in sterner words than he ever used to any other of his disciples (Matt. 16:21–23; Mark 8:31–33).

b. Peter said to Jesus “You shall never wash my feet.” John 13:6-11

c. Peter cut off the ear of Malchus the night Jesus was arrested. Matthew 26:51

d. Peters’ denial of even knowing Jesus after Jesus was arrested. ï»¿Matt. 26:69–75

2. Peter’s Inattention & Distractibility:

a. When Jesus was transfigured and Moses and Elijah appeared, Peter missed the point and began to offer to build three booths, one for each Jesus, Moses and Elijah. …While he was going on like this, babbling, a light-radiant cloud enveloped them, and sounding from deep in the cloud a voice: “This is my Son, marked by my love, focus of my delight. Listen to him.” Peter was missing the point, and God interrupted and said “Listen.” Matt 17:1-5

Blessings of ADHD:

1. Courage, willing to action

2. Quick Thinker, Insightful, Creative (can think outside of the box)

3. Inquisitive Mind

4. Zeal & Devotion (often the first)

5. Big Heart, Giving, Willing to Sacrifice for Others

6. Leadership potential

1. Peter’s Courageous Actions:

a. He followed Jesus to the high priest’s palace the night Jesus was arrested, while the other disciples scattered.

b. These passages suggest that Peter’s leadership among the disciples in the post-Easter church was based on his having been the first disciple to see the risen Lord (e.g., Luke 24:34; Mark 16:7)

c. Death: We know that Peter died as a martyr in Rome (1 Pet. 5:1, 13; John 21:18-19; 1 Clem. 5:1-6:1).

2. Peter’s Quick Thinking & Insight:

a. He (Jesus) then asked, “And you—what are you saying about me? Who am I?” Peter gave the answer: “You are the Christ, the Messiah.”

3. Inquisitive Mind

a. Peter is also the one who asks about the identity of Jesus’ betrayer (John 13:24-25).

4. Peter’s Zeal & Devotion:

a. Peter and his companions left everything in order to follow Jesus (vv. 9-11). Peter’s possessions were always at Jesus’ disposal. Jesus stayed at Peter’s house at Capernaum, where he is said to have healed Peter’s mother-in-law (Mark 1:29-31; Matt. 8:14-15; Luke 4:38-39).

b. When Jesus appeared at the Sea of Tiberias to his disciples, Peter leaps into the sea, and comes to land when Jesus is recognized. John 21:1-23

5. Big Heart, Giving, Willing to Sacrifice for Others

a. The overall picture of Peter as one of the chief leaders responsible for an expanding Christian mission, first to Jews, then to interested Gentiles, is confirmed by the picture of Peter in Acts 1-15. Peter may, indeed, as Acts 10-11 suggests, have been responsible for some form of compromise by which Gentiles were considered ‘clean’ and acceptable members of the Christian community.

6. Peter’s Leadership:

a. Peter is credited with being a leader among the disciples during Jesus’ ministry. Frequently, he was their spokesman. His name always occurs first in lists of the disciples (Mark 3:16; Luke 16:14; Matt. 10:2; in Matthew ‘first’ is added to Peter’s name).

Other Accomplishments:

Raised Dorcas from the dead, ï»¿Acts 9:36–43ï»¿.

Peter wrote two epistles, ï»¿1 Pet. 1:1ï»¿; ï»¿2 Pet. 1:1ï»¿.

Things Jesus Said to Peter:

² Jesus at once recognized Simon, and declared that hereafter he would be called Cephas, an Aramaic name corresponding to the Greek Petros, which means “a mass of rock detached from the living rock.”

² In John 21:15-17 the risen Jesus elicits a threefold protestation of love, corresponding to the threefold denial, from Peter before commissioning him to feed Jesus’ sheep.

² Jesus’ prays for Peter that ‘your faith may not fail; and when you have turned again, strengthen your brothers.’ Luke 22:31-32